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Today when I logged into my beloved project.....my blog.... I found this comment from a
Mr Ashwin. He commented on THIS entry that I borrowed from a girl called DominoXXX, she writes a blog too. I put three of her blog entries (with her permission of course) in my blog because I thought they were funny, kind of true and relate to stripping. Mr Ashwin had this to say.

"I have never seen an Indian guy at a strip club. Even the FOB Indians are not interested in white meat as soon as they land on western shores. They are still homesick and have a picture of an Indian women as their ideal dream girl, not a white one.

I find it hard to believe what you said here: "They try to touch you, and on the off chance that they do buy a dance, chances are they’ll pull out their cock and expect a blow job." Never, most Indian guys are virgin till their marriage. They lose their virginity at the age of 21 years old which is the latest in the entire world.

I do believe in stereotypes if they are true, but this one just ins't even nearly true.

I am pretty sure you are an Indian because it is only Indians who notice other Indians if they were at the strip club, and you must also be Americanised because you are trying to intentionally distance yourself from the FOB Indians just to make it seem that it the FOB who create this negative stereotype and you are not part of it.

I think the India Guy write up seems to be based on your own personal experiences. You must have been this FOB once and have changed to this Americanised version, hence you are really writing about your past, aren't you?"

I don't think that Mr Ashwin is a reader of my blog although I am fairly certain he will be now.
If he would had been a reader he would know that I am NOT Indian and I guess I would pass for "White" since this is the label I would get here in the US. I never thought too much about labels like that when I lived in Sweden.
Mr Ashwin, I have seen many Indian guys in strip clubs and note that it wasn't me that wrote that entry, it was DominoXXX. Although I can tell you this much, many of the Indian men I have encountered at my job have been rather demanding, not understanding or wanting to understand that they are in a strip club and not a brothel and they were often persistent with creepy demands, a few of them have been borderline rough, trying to hold me down while I was trying to get up and away from them etc. Maybe a cultural thing? You know how in some cultures women's rights are not as pronounced. I know that I am far from the only dancer that had these experiences with Indian men in the club, some dancers flat out refuse to approach them because of similar circumstances. This is well known in the dancer community. Maybe Indian guys prefer Indian ladies and dislike white meat as you call it.
I myself think that many Indian women are absolutely gorgeous and I think that Aishwarya Rai is one of the most beautiful women in the world. What kind of meat a guy prefers does not concern me but trust me I have seen quite a few Indian guys in strip clubs so I guess they must like watching different kind of meat once in a while. As far as them being virgins or not.....I wouldn't know. I don't ask random people if they are virgins. And most clubs in the US (where they serve alcohol) are 21 and over so I assume the Indian men that visit those clubs are devirginized, based on the statistics you provided in your comment.
I have met many nice Indian people, I even have Indian readers that are lovely. So please do not take any of this as an insult. Of course I know that far from every Indian guy is some creepy demanding perv. BUT I have ran into a few of the creepy ones at work and that is just stating the facts.

Mr Ashwin, I hope this answer clarifies some of your concerns. I hope that you are not too upset. And welcome to my blog, I am sure you will LOVE it! PS.....thank you for commenting too!

Here I am in bed watching TV. I am watching The Blacklist , I am intrigued by one of the main characters, Raymond Reddington, I love how he says "I'm a criminal." He is also rather SEKSI. In a Putin kind of way. My kind of man!
So I have some stories about some of the girls I work with and their hustle. To me a hustler has a negative ring to it. When I think of a hustler I think of a manipulative person, somebody conniving that preys on perhaps somebody weaker. I am definitely NOT a hustler.
Let's start with FUGLY, shall we? FUGLY preys on the lonely, desperate and very foolish men in this town. She tells them all that they are her boyfriend. She must have a ton of boyfriends! One guy told a friend of mine that him and FUGLY are dating. She almost choked on her coffee when she heard this. The guy does come into the club once in a while, he is a rather odd person with some missing front teeth and likes to get intoxicated and acts rather annoying. I think he is fairly well off and FUGLY has a knack for sniffing this out, therefore she is now in a "relationship" with him. Awwwwwww! How romantic!
Then we have FUGLY's sidekick that I call The Bulldog because she actually resembles this dog breed. The Bulldog and FUGLY operate in the same ways. They are both very conniving.
I found out that The Bulldog recently lead on an older man, she slept with him, although she is married with children. She makes a great wife! The older man is convinced that The Bulldog loves him because she sends him romantic text messages saying that she wants to lay by his side as his wife. How do I know this? Well, some other girl knows this older man and he confided this information to her. FUGLY and The Bulldog do work outside of the club according to several people. SEXY TIME! Some of their "boyfriends" might be gullible enough to be satisfied with the occasional romantic text message but others are a bit smarter than that and will only keep on opening up their wallets once they get some form of sex.
Then we have a third girl that started dancing not too long ago. So let's call her The Novice. You would never know by looking at her, she comes off as a seasoned pro. One of the first things she told me was that she has been thinking about working in a brothel and what did I think about that and would I like to come with her? I told her that if she is thinking about going down that avenue, working in a brothel might be the best and safest way to go. As far as me going there with her for a couple of weeks of "fun" eeehhhh, rather torture.....not my cup of tea. But at least she is honest about it. And I respect that. Not like some girls that pretend to be so goody goody and then you find out that they really are doing all kinds of questionable things. I don't have anything against The Novice, she is rather pleasant.
But somebody recently asked me about her, because The Novice got involved with.....guess what, a very nice but lonely and fairly well off local guy. And the person asking me about The Novice was concerned that her friend (the nice guy) was getting taken for a ride. And he was.
The Novice recently moved into a nice place with expensive rent that the nice guy paid for. She got to drive his nice truck. But he would never be invited to her place, she wanted her privacy although they were in a relationship. She told him that she would work until late almost every night, later than the club is open. There was even talks about him buying her a nice house until he wizened up and completely cut her off. So no more truck and no more rent assistance until the next guy comes around.
I don't know whether to feel sorry for these guys or laugh at them? I don't like when people take advantage of somebody, it is just not right. If somebody wants to give something to you just because then fine.....but don't lie, manipulate and lead somebody on. And it's not only strippers doing this to lonely guys. Men do it to women, people pray on the elderly. There are all kinds of scam artists out there.
But guys, REALLY! Come on! If your "girlfriend" constantly demands money from you, mainly communicates through text messages and you never been to where she lives....then something is not right. Wake up and smell the coffee or stay in the situation and be a sucker. Some people are OK with this, like a sugar daddy style situation and if that is how it is then fine, be happy. One more thing, if you only see your "girlfriend" in the strip club while she works and your only interaction with her involves many lap dances that you pay for, then that is not your girlfriend. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but that is the reality. Well, it's time for a cup of tea. Good Night!

I'm a criminal!

I'm slowly waking up with some breakfast at Coffee Roasters. Today's chores so far consist of a run to the dump, the store again and more laundry at home. I need to vacuum and sweep the floors too.
Well, I better get going. Check back later for more from your favorite wordsmith. ❤

Sunday today.....some Sundays I do errands.....going to the grocery store and exciting things like that. So today when walking into a store I saw a guy sitting outside the front doors with his two dogs. I have seen him around here before, sitting outside the stores or walking around town. The reason I pay attention is because of the two dogs that are with him. I also noticed that he was rather loudly reprimanding his dogs. I felt bad for them. So on the way out of the store instead of passing them by I walked up and asked if I could pet his dogs.
They were very friendly, wagging tails, coming close and licking my hands. Sweeties! I noticed that they were skinny, not scary bony but not well fed. I asked the guy if he was homeless and he told me that he lives in his car. Then I asked him if he would be ok with me getting his dogs something to eat and he was. So I got them canned food and some chicken jerky. As far as the guy goes, he is not old or handicapped, at least not visibly disabled. I can only hope that he gets food stamps so he can feed himself. But the dogs.....well they depend on their caregiver for food and I just couldn't walk by today pretending that I didn't see or care, I had to feed those dogs, they were hungry. All pets deserve a good life with care, love and respect.
I don't take my life for granted, at least I try not to. I might very well end up homeless one day, who knows?



I had a great conversation with my friend Juliana today. Most of my friends live far away.
I wish I could see them on a regular basis because I miss them. We were talking about men, relationships and sex. How so many guys don't understand how important it is to pay attention to their wife of girlfriend, after a while it's like you get taken for granted and yes that will affect the sex life for most couples (yes?). Totally understandable. I blurted out something that made us both laugh, "Don't point your erection in my direction expecting to get affection." It takes a bit more effort than that! Another friend of mine that recently got married has written up a form of contract/guidelines for their relationship with her husband.
I think it is great. Basically, he is not allowed to whine and sulk if he is not getting sex when he wants to. Acting like a toddler and throwing tantrums is not sexy when you are an adult man. Definitely NOT a turn on. Also, if he wants sex he needs to put in some effort and pay attention to her by either giving her a good foot rub or a massage. And if he does a half assed job he will get half assed sex, you get what you put in. This might not sound very romantic for some but I think it is a great idea. Intimacy is so much more than an erection that needs attention. Most women can actually take it or leave it. Don't be fooled by porn, that is not reality and that is not how women work, especially not if you have been together for a while. I am tired of listening to or reading about guys complaining about sex, not getting enough sex from their partner. Boooooohoooooo! Guess what buddy? Shut up and pay more attention to your partner, I promise that it will lead to more sex. Unless she has already grown resentful of you and your shit and is planning her escape.

There was also some drama at work last night. I am going to refrain from saying too much about it for now but I guess I am DEFIANT. Hell yes, I am defiant and proudly too! I'd rather be defiant than a sheep. Rather be defiant than some nasty hooker at work or one of the girls that steals guys wallets or leads them on, pretending to be their girlfriend and shit. I actually need to write an entry about that......there are many gullible men in this town, it's sad or rather comical actually. Is it possible for men to think with their real brain, you know the one on top of their shoulders when it comes to promises of some random vagina? Or does the small brain located in their member that is in between their legs take over?

What an honor it must be to be awarded a Nobel Prize......just imagine! This year one of the people receiving the Nobel Prize in Chemistry is a man that together with his wife designed a sculpture for this years Burning Man, called UNITY. His name is Michael Levitt and her name is Rina. I love this! So many people think that only good for nothing freaks and druggies gather at Burning Man for a week of basically bullshit mumbo jumbo. Just a great example of a preconceived opinion many have. Burning Man is actually full of brilliant creative freaks. Besides since when is being a "freak" something bad? So next time you start to smirk condescendingly when you hear something about Burning Man, get off that high horse of yours. Where is YOUR Noble Prize, huh? Yeah, I didn't think so. I myself would love to one day get two prizes, one for Peace and that one I would have to travel to Oslo to get. Hey, if Obama somehow got a Peace prize, so can I OK? And then one in Literature....of course! And that prize I would travel to Stockholm to receive, in case you don't know.....I grew up there. I might write some amazing stuff one day and blow the whole world away. Very few people have been awarded two Nobel Prizes but Marie Skłodowska-Curie (nee Maria) received two, in Physics and Chemistry. And Marie Skłodowska-Curie was born in Poland, just like me. She was a remarkable woman! Really.

Photographer Michael Helms.