Opinions - 22

Yesterday afternoon while driving home from the gym I was listening to talk radio......as always. Some guy named Mike Pecaro has a show, he lives here in Alaska. Some dude called in and started talking about his disapproval with Plan B, a pill that can prevent pregnancy, he was also against abortions in general and that girls under 18 can get an abortion without parental consent. Then he proceeded with saying that he actually knows a woman that had an abortion (NO WAY, REALLY? GASP!) and that she was a happy person before the abortion and after it she just turned into a miserable person, a shadow of her former self that deeply regretted the abortion. The radio show host chimed in and agreed that abortions are bad, Plan B too and bla bla bla. I really get pissed off when some old dusty fogbones, men in this case, talk like this about women's rights. I am absolutely FOR women's rights. Yes, I think abortions are ok as long as guidelines are followed. I have known several girls that had abortions and guess what.......never heard them mention that they regretted it or that it changed their life into some miserable existence. There are times when an abortion is a better option than having the baby I think. And from the stellar examples I have heard and witnessed of some "parents" out there I think a lot of them would had done the child a favor by not having it in the first place. Abuse, neglect, molestation......you name it.
Fun circumstances for a child to grow up in. If you don't want to abort the baby you can always look into adoption as an option. As far as Plan B. I think Plan B is great. I took it once, and no I do not feel like I murdered an innocent baby. But since I thought there was a chance that maybe I was pregnant I decided to take the Plan B pill instead of having to go through a possible abortion down the line. Girls under 18 getting abortions without their parents consent? I think that is ok too. If you think about it, there is probably a reason for that. The girls that have an abortion without telling their parents are probably scared to come forward and tell them about the pregnancy for a reason, like they might get beaten or severely punished as a result. And one more thing, it IS the girls body. Even as a parent, your child is not your possession, you didn't buy your child like you buy a car. So therefore I think a girl under 18 should be able to do whatever she wishes when it comes to that. I am in favor of kids waiting to have sex, the thought of 12 - 16 year olds having sex is scary to me but hey.....they do, that is the reality. So the best thing you can do as a parents is to be a good role model, be there for your children and be the kind of parent that your children can turn to in any situation. Looking back, I wish I would had waited a few more years with having sex, I was a 16 1/2. Way too young. I can see that now, I didn't then.
Having an abortion is a personal choice and most likely not an easy decision to make. But still, it is a right. And yes, I believe in children's rights too. Therefore there are guidelines in place when it comes to abortion, like you can't all of a sudden decide in the seventh month of pregnancy that you don't want the baby anymore. Then there are other options. Like adoption. But that is not what I am talking about here. I am talking about how annoying it is when some dusty old fogbones want to take away women's rights. I bet the discussion would sound totally different if it was men that got pregnant instead of women. Men have always wanted to control women. Like we are their property or prized possessions. And in some counties they still do. Let me tell you, I am extremely grateful that I do not live in a place where women have no or limited rights.

I woke up too early today because that boy dog that likes Chhaya came by again.
Third time since last Sunday. So Chhaya was barking and whining. I had to call the owners (again) and ask them to come and get him. I would never let Chhaya roam around miles from the house by herself. I would be worried that something bad would happen to her. I have a friend that let his dog out once and didn't see the dog for three days, that poor dog had been trapped in a snare. Luckily he somehow survived.
People let their dogs run without supervision all the time and next thing they know the dog is gone. Irresponsible I think.
So.......what can I write about today? Well, how about this. A sick and evil pedophile recently got released from jail. Manipulated his electronic bracelet device. Then went ahead and abducted a woman and her 10 year old daughter. Raped the little girl in front of the Mom, then murdered the Mom. He got apprehended and is back in jail.
I could write about stuff like this every day. What I don't understand is what he was doing out in society in the first place, why was he released from jail? It seems like pedophiles are repeat offenders, therefore I strongly believe in chemical castration. Should be mandatory punishment for all convicted child molesters and rapist. What is wrong with (some) men? Really!? You don't hear of women (often at least) attacking children and raping them or other guys either for that matter. Sure women commit crimes but what is the problem with men? When I hear about cases like that I get so sad. That poor 10 year old is without a Mom now, she knows that her Mom got murdered. And she lived through a traumatic rape. Nice start on her life. Scarred forever.
I just thought of something else Larry (from the other night) told me. He said that there is never such a thing as a bad day or a problem. I told him that I didn't agree. I am a realist.
Of course there are bad days and problems. Obviously, look at what I just wrote about. Larry said he is an optimist and for him there are no problems or bad days. Hmmmmmmm.........Then he said that I might change my mind on that when I get older. Perhaps. Change is a part of life. I am aware of this. He also told me that he used to shoot coyotes in his younger days, kind of just to shoot them. And that he now regrets doing that. He said, "For what?". He no longer believes in hunting as a thing to do for fun. That I liked to hear. Hunting just for fun? Barbaric in my opinion.

Went to Coffee Roasters to get my latte today. There were four small kids there ranging in the ages from 1 1/2 to four I am guessing. Their toys strewn all over the floor by the entry, they were running around, during the less than ten minutes I was there they were screaming, fighting with each other, fussing and crying loudly. The two Moms present not doing much about it. Two girls were sitting at a table, trying to talk while drinking coffee and watched with annoyance when the screams got especially loud, I could see that they were not too happy. A few weeks ago some of the bloggers in Sweden and the newspapers too had a debate whether child free cafe's should be ok or not. The discussion got heated. I am absolutely for child free cafe's and restaurants. If I am out dining at a restaurant or enjoying my latte I am not interested in hearing some kid/s screaming, whining, throwing tantrums. I don't want any toys thrown at my feet or in my food. I don't want to smell any poopy diapers.
No, I do not have kids. And this seems to be an issue divided between the people that have kids and the ones that don't. The people with kids are of course all for dragging their kids to a restaurant, even if they thrown tantrums. While the people with no kids are for a quiet and enjoyable dining experience. Some people with kids even think it should be ok to change a poopy diaper on the dining table. I think that you need to keep kids with diapers away from restaurants. Some people felt that the children were being discriminated against as a group and wondered if there should also be cafe's and restaurants not allowing Muslims or the mentally disabled. I do not see that connection. Adults (regardless of skin color and religion) or children that are a little older, like five plus know how to behave out in public. A lot of toddlers seem to have a problem with that. Whether it is the parents skills as a parent and a disciplinarian can be debated. I have experienced highly annoying toddlers on airplanes and cafe's before and yes it is disturbing and annoying. OK? And the mentally challenged do not bother me at all. I have never encountered a mentally disabled person coming up to me while I am sitting down, drinking my latte and being a nuisance. Unsupervised kids on the other hand do that a lot. Look, nobody is interested in playing with YOUR kids. You did not come to a playground, you are at a public eatery. I am trying to enjoy my meal.
If you want to go to a restaurant or a cafe I suggest that you leave your kids with somebody that can watch over them. If I was a Mom I would not drag my toddler or baby with me to a restaurant. That wouldn't be fun for me. Soon enough your little brats will be old enough to accompany you to restaurants and other places. Until then, leave them out of there. Take them to places more geared towards kids. Maybe there are some eateries that are geared towards the family dining experience. Denny's?
And yes, there are some very well behaved little angels out there but more often than not I see and hear the little kids that scream and cry for no apparent reason at all.
With parents that have no clue to how to handle them. Or maybe no energy.
And changing poopy diapers at the table? That is fucking gross. Yes, I know that I was once a baby with poopy diapers but that doesn't mean that I am interested in re living that phase of my life with being exposed to the smell and sight of some random kids diaper. There is a time and place for everything. And no, I do not dislike children in general. I am no the type that will fawn and ooooooh and aaaaah over every baby or toddler I see. Kids tend to like me when I spend time with them because I like to engage them in fun play. But yes, I dislike them when they shriek in my ear at a cafe or an airplane, or I should rather say......I dislike the parent.

Here I am at 3 15 AM, in bed reading, thinking about taking a bath, brushing my teeth and calling it a night. I like to stay up late at night even when I am not working. I have not done anything interesting this weekend, I didn't even go to work because I wasn't in the mood. I stayed home, ate, read, slept, doted on Chhaya, made a really good stir fry. I think I will be ready for work again soon.
So I just read that the two teenage football players (Steubenville High School, Ohio) got found guilty of raping that 16 year old girl. GOOD! I have been following the case, curious about the outcome. To me it seemed like there was plenty of evidence to convict them but then you know there is also this mentality that "boys will be boys" and you know she was just "some dumb drunk girl asking for it". Yeah, she was drunk, way too drunk, she passed out poor thing. But most of us have been there in some shape or form. I got wasted a few times as a teen. Being drunk and passed out is NOT an invitation for rape or any other violation. I wonder why none of her friends didn't step up and help her? Maybe scared to get involved or lose their popularity status? Also, it seems to me that boys that excel in sports, here in the US at least, seem to be able to or think that they can get away with pretty much everything and anything. Just following this recent case made it even more evident. How about putting more value on other qualities like reading, writing, math, art, kindness and thoughtfulness etc? Sure and yes, sports are fun, good for you and teaches you (hopefully) many valuable skills but life is so much more than being on that sports team. I think that should be emphasized more. But I wouldn't know, I guess.......I was never that much into sports growing up as a teen. I liked reading, music, dancing, going out and boys. And horses. Now I do like to play sports, not watch them (I find that boring). I like soccer (fotboll in Sweden), tennis, volleyball, badminton, basketball just to mention a few.
I do remember when I was 14 or 15 or so.........I liked a particular guy that didn't deserve my attention at all I can say now, looking back. He liked to play tennis, so I spent hours watching him play tennis and giggling if he looked my way. LAME! I wish I would had spent that time bothering with other things more worthy my time. But I was 14 and boy crazy. Thank goodness I grew out of that phase!
But back to this unfortunate (for the girl) rape. The guys I couldn't care less about, they got what they deserved, should had probably gotten some more time actually, I think they got off pretty easy. Now there will be people whining about that the boys lives and their promising football careers are over. So? What about the girl? What about HER life? How do you think she is coping now? I hope this will be a warning and a lesson for some, that being a star athlete on the high school football or basketball team or some other sport doesn't mean that you can get away with acting however you want.
Plus......I like nerds like Sheldon Cooper myself.

I found this sad picture in a magazine the other day and I am a huge animal rights activist. I think that trophy hunting is barbaric and shows a very primitive and uneducated side in the people that take part in it. I don't care how much money you paid to go on some trip to shoot yourself a wolf, tiger, zebra etc - that doesn't make it RIGHT. I would never in my life have an animal head on my wall, a zebra rug on my floor or wear a fur coat.
The animals are killed with the sole purpose of being showcased as a trophy. They are not killed for the consumption of their meat. I am not going to be a hypocrite (because I personally can't stand hypocrites) and say that I never eat meat or wear clothing made from the skin of an animal. I do eat meat once in a while, I am a flexitarian. And I do have some clothing made of leather, for example leather pants. I am pretty sure the leather my pants are made of came from a cow that got slaughtered for it's meat, so the skin was a byproduct. I would never wear an animal that was slaughtered solely for the reason to become some pants or a coat. Like mink or fox.
I get really surprised when I see women hunting for trophies, they must have some extra testosterone or are trying hard to show off to the boys that they too can be bad ass - that is how I see it. Men that do it, to me, want to show off their power and often wealth. Power trip. To me it is tacky and like I already said.......barbaric and uneducated.
I'd much rather preserve the tigers and other endangered species in the world than let men get an ego boost.
It is one thing if you kill an animal for it's meat and then use it's skin and fur, I can't really argue against that. But to shoot a tiger ONLY to display the head and fur in your living room..........explain the reasoning behind that for me please. And make a valid argument for it, not only, "Because I can." There are plenty of endangered animals out there getting slaughtered on a daily basis. It is so wrong!
Some dumb men think that eating a rhino horn, a tiger penis or some shark fin soup etc work as some form of miraculous aphrodisiac and will get them a bigger and harder erection. Please do not use innocent animals for your own personal limp dick problems. Hugh Hefner is 86 and he pops a Viagra. You can do it too, leave the animals alone.
And yes, it would probably be kinder of me if I raised my own chickens and cows to kill and eat. But I know myself. I would fall in love with them and not be able to kill them. How could I possibly? I rarely eat meat. There have been times when I went for years without a bite of any kind of meat and that includes fish. I realize that people do not want to give up eating meat and fish. But I do think it is possible to eat less of it and be just as healthy if not even healthier from it. And to slaughter and animal to display as a trophy or because you have a penis dysfunction? That is plain WRONG - that is the only was to look at that issue.
I also think it is really tacky of Beyonce to keep stepping out in furs and clothing made from exotic animals. It only shows that she is a very selfish person that ONLY cares to show off her wealth and how "trendy" she is. To me she is tacky. Money, as we all know it.......DOES NOT BUY YOU CLASS.

So I picked up the Redoubt Reporter yesterday, the new issues come out each Wednesday.
It's the free weekly paper here where I live. In it there is a long article about abortion and I guess there are some upstanding citizens (I hope you hear my sarcasm) around here that make it their mission to put their pro-life, anti abortion views on display. Some dude, Bob, has been holding up a sign at busy street corners around town every year since 1984. WOW Bob, good job! If I see you I will smile in your face and accidentally blast you with thick fumes from my Ford F-250. BRRRRROOOOOM!!!!
Or how about Laura, a proud Mom of 10 kids, YES TEN......She even involves her little angels in her anti-abortion protests and has the kids stand outside with "Stop Abortion Now" signs.
There is even a picture in the paper of the kids, one of them looks young. Too young to be concerned with how she or he stands in the abortion issue. Listen Laura, first of all, tie your tubes ok. Why do you need 10 kids for? Yes, I know that you are against abortion and you are probably a firm believer in God too. If you tie your tubes then you don't have to get an abortion, you just won't reproduce anymore. You should not reproduce anymore! People like Laura and Bob scare me. I think it should be ILLEGAL to make your kids stand outside with anti-abortion signs. Do they even know what that means? Do they grasp what they are protesting against? Laura should take her kids to do some kid friendly activities instead, like skiing or camping.
I think Laura is a bad parent. A bad parent forces their own rabid beliefs on their kids instead of letting them think freely, be open minded, rational and form their own opinions.
I am a firm believer in pro-choice! It's a right. A human right. What's next? No abortion even if you get raped or molested? OF COURSE I do not think it is ok to abort when you are for example five months pregnant, duh - there are many guidelines and rules to be followed regarding abortion.
How about birth control? Maybe we should be anti birth control too because some avid Bible readers can probably argue for that using birth control is also wrong. All women should just pop out 10 kids or so, like good ole' Laura! What an amazing woman she is! It's going to be great when her 10 spawns start having sex and a few accidentally get pregnant (and get an abortion perhaps) or impregnate somebody unwillingly. And NO, I do not think that abortion should be used as a method of birth control. If somebody abuses this I think they should be forced to get a Norplant or something similar implanted. Now there is Plan B easily available, I think that's great.
And the cowards that stand outside Planned Parenthood and hoot and holler? Give me a break! Do something USEFUL with yourselves, like go home and take care of your kids. Volunteer.
Clean up the trash in nature. Planned Parenthood is great! They do lots for women AND men, screen for STD's, cancer, help with family planning etc. You should be GRATEFUL that there is a Planned Parenthood here. Instead it says in the paper that some view Planned Parenthood as the enemy! How sick do you have to be to think of Planned Parenthood as the enemy? I admire the people working at Planned Parenthood. Thinking about it, I am going to get a card and express my gratitude and admiration to the staff that works there.
Sorry to inform you of some facts Laura but women have always had abortions, even when and where it was illegal and unsafe. Women have died from having "abortions" performed on them with clothing hangers and other objects. And women will get abortions even if it is made illegal. And now you might sit there and think that I am pro-choice because I myself had a bunch of abortions. WRONG! I am for women's rights. It's as simple as that.......

And what a coincidence......! Just as I finished this entry I get an email about abortions, here it is. Read and THINK. Do you want your rights taken away? Remember, you give a finger then they (Big Brother) will come for ALL of you sooner than later.

"Republicans in New Mexico are pushing a bill that would force victims of rape or incest to carry their pregnancies to term if they wanted a sexual assault trial – and would charge them with a felony if their pregnancy was terminated. This heinous bill would turn sexual assault survivors into potential felons and force them to become incubators of evidence for the state, robbing them of agency and making them relive their assault through pregnancy in order to “prove” their case. This isn't about preserving evidence, it's about denying basic human rights -- and we cannot allow this heartless, unnecessary and blatantly unconstitutional bill to become law. Please, join us in urging the state legislature to kill Bill 206. Stand up for the women of New Mexico: sign your name to our petition today!
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