It's going on one month now.....the not shaving my armpits. Why? Well, I am kind of making a statement. To myself and to anybody that cares to care. My worth as a human being, as a woman.....does NOT depend on whether men think I am "fuckable" or not. Frankly, I couldn't care less about what guys think of me. And I wish that I had realized this much earlier.
You know, when I was a teenager and I was worrying and obsessing about boys and stuff like that. Then I grew up and stopped caring as much.
I am completely aware of that I work in strip clubs and that 99.9% of the money that I make come from men. And I appreciate that. But when the occasional asshole wanders in and tells me loudly that he thinks I am rude/angry/not friendly enough/not this/not that/should smile more/too skinny/too tall/too standoffish/demands my phone number/demands other stuff and bla bla bla I am absolutely going to put my foot down and tell him to shut the fuck up basically. My integrity is priceless, I have said that many times now. I can always make money as a dancer. A few assholes here and there won't make any difference in my wallet.
Therefore I refuse to sit there, quietly with a forced smiled plastered across my face like "a nice girl" and take any form of abuse. I work on MY terms. Oh and believe me, I know how to stand up for myself!
As far as shaving goes. I don't know how brainwashed I am when it comes to that, I'm sure that I am to some degree. I shave, trim and pluck and have done so for a long time, before I started dancing. I personally think that trimming and shaving is cleaner. And that goes for men too. But that's my opinion and it is totally OK if some hairy never shaved woman reads this and doesn't agree. I won't dislike her or judge her for it. I have looked into the history of shaving and it goes back to thousands of years BC.....both sexes have used all kinds of tools (like seashells and flint blades) to get rid of or alter body hair. It's actually quite interesting to read about it.
So I have been going in to work with my hairy pits and proudly announcing that they are hairy and showing them off to everybody. The reactions have been mixed. One of the girls I work with thinks it's sexy. Damn right it is! I think I can safely say that shaving amongst girls and women is very widespread and mainstream in the US. It's more like that you SHOULD shave here and if girls don't start taking care of their body hair at an early age they risk being bullied by their peers. Unless you are home schooled or Amish. That's just wrong. To get bullied because you don't shave your legs or armpits? So very sad and very wrong.
I don't know how long I am going to keep my hairy pits. I might keep it up for a while or I might shave. The point is.....I do whatever I want with my body. If you don't like it.....oh well.
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Having hairy armpits (for example) because I am critical to how women all over are supposed to look like, according to men, regardless of what we do for a living, has NOTHING to do with me being a stripper or dancer as I call myself. I think it is sad that girls in middle school and high school worry about getting bullied for not shaving their legs and armpits instead of worrying about other more important things. I would hope that you would want your daughter (if you have one) to be able to feel free to be hairy if that is what she wants.
And since when is it a guys right to barge into a strip club and loudly criticize every girl in sight? And since when should it be OK to give out $ 20 hand jobs in the strip club when we are clearly instructed not to do so? Am I wrong for criticizing that? Because those are some of the topics I suspect you are referring to, when you say that I have been critical of the environment I choose to be in. If you have been reading my blog you should know that I am far from the only dancer that does not agree with nasty stuff going on in the club OR OK with being verbally assaulted by random idiots. But I choose to write about it, so YOU and many others can read it. I also have many fun moments at work, like last night for example.....a night full of jokes and laughter. Actually most of my nights are fun overall although I do get faced with annoying stuff on a regular basis and that's good because then I can write about it and be critical.
I am a lazy and comfortable creature. As of now I am doing what I do.....until when? Probably until I am so old and saggy that I can't get hired anywhere else, or I have a hard time swinging around the pole, so I have another 40 years to go (if I start taking Glucosamine like soon)......YES! I went to college but can't decide on what I want to do so no, I don't have a degree of any sorts. I am completely relying on my good looks and shitty attitude to take me places and the hope that some old man somewhere will decide on leaving me his whole fortune in his will. You know, like Anna Nicole Smith.
Also a college degree does not necessary mean that you will get a well paying job in your field, recent statistic show that many graduates are jobless or work in something that they are overqualified for, like a fast food restaurant. I guess I could do that but I don't want to, not now at least.
If you would know me in real life you would know that I am a rather happy person. Despite the critical writings, that only means that I think and express myself.
But I do appreciate the comment (really).....keep on reading!
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Oh it's OK about not being as wealthy as J. Howard Marshall.....not many are afterall. Besides I was only joking...... đ
I don't think I have it in me to take advantage of men that many decades my senior. In fact, I don't want to take advantage of anybody.
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Kram, Amanda
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Nu blev jag nyfiken....vart nanstans dansade du?
Tack for dom fina orden....kram!
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