Another thing that has kept me away from the small club I work at here locally, when I don't travel for work which I can't do all the time.....is that last time I was there, back in October the owner said something rather nasty to me and I got sent home. Not for doing anything wrong but merely for joking around. I did not appreciate that treatment and I know that if I would had worked at a "regular" job that would had been absolutely unacceptable and I could had went to HR and filed a complaint or even taken it further and gotten legal advice. Well, as a dancer you don't have many rights and we are not protected in ways that most people in the workforce are. Somebody also told me that they heard I got fired. Well, listen I did not get fired. First of all, I never did anything to get fired for. Things you can and probably should get fired for as a dancer would be getting wasted at work every time you are there (acting drunk and obnoxious), stealing at work, ripping people off, doing dirty dances, having sex or just acting plain crazy. Since I don't do any of that stuff at work ever, I don't get in trouble. I got fired once by a douchey manager at Tens in NYC for not wearing the appropriate shoe (missing ankle strap) and he overheard me talking about it to my girlfriend, so he flexed his bossy muscles and fired me. And was a good thing because I went to Flashdancers instead and made more money and management loved me there. That is the only time I got fired from a club.
One more thing, the owner at this club here has told me that he is glad that I work there because I am, in his own words, "good for business." He likes the way I look and carry myself. So last night he came up to me and kindly apologized for the incident last month. Of course I accepted the apology. I know that we all sometimes blurt out things that we don't mean, we all have bad days.....that's life. So Tatiana is back in business.......BITCHES! So to all you sorry bitches here in this small town that has nothing better to do than talk shit about me, because I am such a SCANDALOUS stripper......you can KISS MY ASS!
You will never be anything close to what I am and stand for......and I do not refer to what I look like necessarily because we all have a different opinion about what beauty is.....and looks don't last forever. I'm talking about who I am as a person. So go home, stuff your face with pizza, grow a bigger ass, get drunk and talk some more trash! YEAAAY!!!
OMG, a dancer that likes to read, write and talk about things that matter. LUCKY YOU!
One more thing.......and this is a PERSONAL matter. It is really interesting to me that a certain person that called me crying last summer asking me for help when they could not pay their rent and car payment due to not making any money at work is thinking it is totally appropriate to talk shit about me and yap about my personal life to some nasty white trash people here that I KNOW they would otherwise talk bad about and never hang out with in the town they were living before. I paid for a ticket for this person to get here, brought them to the club so they could make money and get back on their feet, introduced them to a nice guy that treats them way better than the 15 or so last guys that they dated or got fucked by in the last couple of years.
I have helped out on several other occasions with money and lent an ear EVERY time when they were sad or went through hard times in life because that is (at least to me) what a good friend does and this is what I get in return. Not to mention all the other nice verbal insults and crazy talk that I got barraged with last couple of months from this individual. Yea, you know who you are and I know you read my blog. Don't bite the hand that feeds you and SHAME on you! I would never ever sink as low as you. I hope you are HAPPY and that your life will finally start working out for you! And I sincerely mean that. I am a forgiving person and a very loyal friend but do NOT confuse my kindness for weakness!
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Thank You Annette!
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It hurts...it does when you treat someone with kindness and respect and don't get it back in the end. What burns is the facade...the song and dance they put on in the beginning. They know they are lacking emotional courtesy so they woo you into thinking they'd do anything for you until you finally see their true nature and that's the hardest part to swallow.
However, this being said-the conflict is w/in this other person's, unsettled, sad and restless soul. Not you. You've done your part and have forgiven the abuse. And kudos to you for doing that because it's NOT okay to call anyone (esp. a friend that has continuously been there) names or manipulate them emotionally. It sounds like this person cannot be real with themselves or else they'd know how they AFFECT other people.
Part of being a good person, is understanding HOW we affect the others in our life.
"DO MY WORDS AND ACTIONS HURT OR HEAL?"
Simple question. But if a person can't ask themselves that, don't think they are capable of giving another person that courtesy.
I'd walk away if it were me. After a while, the smell of too much cow shit, is too much and my nose can only stay on the farm for so long.
Only if you want the continued drama to feed a part you then stay friends with this person. Me? I wouldn't do it because it's not worth the aggravation. I'd rather be one less "friend" than feel criticized, unsupported and under siege.
You are one of the best people I've ever met. You are not only loving and kind but have a strong personality with an entirely strong and confident idea of who you are. That's intimidating to some people that don't have that sense of self.
Stay friendly, keep it light and move on.
You are a beautiful soul. I should know, we've been such very close friends for 15 yrs. I speak from experience...I love you, girl.
Take care and know I will ALWAYS be there for you with a smile, kind words and an open heart.
xoox
Juliana
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I like the cow shit and farm description.....that's very clever and funny.
Many hugs and ❤ from me....I'm very glad and thankful that you are my friend!
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