I got a comment the other day that I want to give a longer answer to so here it is......and Jeff.....thank you for reading and taking time out of your day to comment!
In previous posts you’ve noted that you don’t give out your phone number at work or make phony play dates, lunch dates or fishing trips. Thank you for NOT doing this."
Let me explain here about why I do not give out my number to guys at work......it is nothing personal but what purpose would that serve anyways? I can't sit around and answer my phone all day long and get involved in long conversations during the day, I have other things to do. I know girls that give out their number and then avoid answering their phone, that would be rude I think. The people that have my number have it for a reason, the reason is not so I can avoid their calls. I also know of girls that have a separate work phone just for guys they meet in the club, again.....way too much work for me. I mean, do you ask for and get your doctor's, therapists and barista's phone number as well? If somebody really wants to know more about me, they can read my blog. I know that I am so extremely interesting.....
That is what the blog is for - to be read. BUT I want to point out that my blog is read by all kinds of people, not only guys that I meet at work. I actually welcome women to read it so they can see that not all dancers are totally crazy as many people think (many times wrongfully) that we are. In fact, I know several girls that I've had the pleasure of working with that are absolute quality people.
As far as play dates and lunch dates, that is not my thing. I have met guys at work and actually made friends with them outside of the club and went to lunch or dinner and had the best conversations during the meal. But to have lunch or dinner just to try to entice a guy, having to act flirty with him so he comes back in and spends more money on me would feel wrong and be awkward. I am so not a "hustler". When I started dancing I got lectures from other girls on how to "work " guys in that kind of way but it is not my thing and I decided that I wouldn't operate like that. I just can't. It makes me feel uncomfortable.
If somebody wants to buy me something as a gift I am not going to decline but I am not going to have dinner with a guy in order to get a nice purse or something. Leading another person on like that, feigning interest.....I guess I am too honest for that.
"My buddies and I fish the peninsula 2-3 times/year and usually stop at your club for a nite or 2 on each trip. Not big spenders but drop $400-500 per guy most nites. We love the girls, have fun talking to them, always ask them to go fishing and they always eventually blow us off --- once our wallets are empty. We have a blast, try to be respectful. We don’t ask about “daddy issues”. We don’t paw the girls, try to buy “extras” or treat them like sluts. We get it that you are businesswomen making a living; you stay up all nite and work your ass off wearing 7 inch heels. You are not selling sex--- you are selling the illusion that a super hot chic would be attracted to us chumps. We appreciate the effort."
Thank You for appreciating the girls.....
Not all of us have daddy issues (I don't) and we certainly do not want to get treated like sluts. Speaking for myself, anyone trying to paw me or treat me in any way short of respectful is not going to get far with that behavior. And I am glad to see that you realize that we are not selling sex. That is not what a strip club should be about. I call it adult style entertainment. Not going all the way in any shape or form. As far as you being chumps, I doubt that. I have met so many nice and fun guys at work, when you meet somebody interesting money is of no importance.
"Anyway, recently one girl (not FUGLY- a new one, or one that says she’s new), screwed up our fishing by insisting that she wanted to go fishing with us. Even after we’d spent all our money and were leaving she’s still setting this fishing thing up. She’d call or text us as soon as she got up. DO NOT leave without her. We didn’t have her number. She had ours.
All of us except one guy knew the whole thing was stripper BS. But that one guy owned the boat and wouldn’t launch it till she called. He was SURE she would. Needless to say, she didn’t, and we wasted a perfectly good fishing day driving around waiting for this chick to (never) call.
It pissed us off. We were gonna go back to the club the next nite but didn’t and if we do (well, we will eventually) will never buy anything from this chick. Don’t know why some of them do that. Seems like bad business. Maybe get so coked up that their lies outrun their coverage.
Anyway, we appreciate that you DON'T do that. Maybe you miss a dance but you respect your customers and have some class. Maybe "regal" even."
Yeah.....I don't know why people do this. Set up meetings, promise things and then don't deliver. I would feel bad if I did that. This is done all over the place and not only in strip clubs. But I know that girls will get along with everything a guy tells them or asks of them in the club just to squeeze out every dollar they can out of the guy. And trust me, it works. The girls are trying to make as much as they can and some of them don't care how they make it as long as they do. I have been called bitch and stuck up more than once because I have politely declined to give out my number. So be it, call me any name you can think of, I don't give out my number, especially not to somebody calling me bad names. Sometimes when guys don't want to take no for an answer I have been tempted to give out the number to the club, they can call there and ask for me. And I know I am missing out on money for not "playing the game" more enthusiastically......but I try to treat people the way I want to be treated, regardless of if I am at work or not. I don't appreciate when people lie to me or flake on me, so why should I do that to somebody? Money is money but integrity is priceless, right?
Next time you are in town and plan on fishing trips with girls from the club, make sure you have their real number first. Some girls really do like fishing (I don't) and do join in on the fun. Also, what sounds like a great idea at 2 am while slightly or a lot intoxicated doesn't seem as appealing at 6 am the same morning when the alarm rings and it is time to rise and shine and go and catch some fish.....right?
"The more I think of it, the more I think it has to do with the crazy things girls do and say when they are too high on coke or E---both of which probably make it a lot easier to grind out dances for guys you'd otherwise sneer at. So maybe I'm actually thanking you for not getting too high at work."
Alcohol and drugs do make people say and do things they wouldn't normally say or do while sober. We all know this. That is why most of the things people tell me at work go in one ear and out the other. From what I have experienced it is alcohol that is most present in a bar setting. And I am NEVER intoxicated at work. No drinks or drugs for me at work. I'd much rather do drugs (if and when I do them) at a specially selected occasion with people I know and trust than waste a good pill of E on a random night at work.
Happy future fishing!