Opinions

Entries from October 2014

Thursday, October 30. 2014

Routine

After spending too long in bed today tossing and turning, thinking.....I finally got up.
Things are not going to change just because I'm feeling a bit sad and unmotivated.
If anything, not doing anything will only make it worse. I almost always feel bad if I completely waste a day without doing anything productive. So I'm back to my frequent routine, latte and muffin at Coffee Roasters, typing away on my laptop. I have some good news about caffeine by the way.....well, I never thought that caffeine was bad for you but some people think so. But here it is, "You’ll live longer having an espresso in the morning! Studies show people who have moderate caffeine consumption actually live longer, healthier lifestyles. Caffeine consumption can be very healthy and reduce the incidence of certain neurological disorders, increase alertness, and the rate of preferred body fat." This is according to some buff and fit guy called Harley Pasternak.



OK.....the news here in Alaska, gay people can legally get married now. The courthouse here in Kenai has performed a couple of same sex ceremonies already since the ban on same sex marriage was lifted recently. I am open minded, I don't care. Straight, gay - doesn't matter to me. I am only against pervy old men marrying young girls, like the whole Courtney Stodden disaster. Hi pedophile! I also think that a man married to several different women is strange and I have to wonder about the reasons behind that. Not my cup of tea. My thoughts on marriage......I'm not sure, I am for it and also against it. I think people give up too fast on their relationships when things get tough. And I'm not talking about giving up if you get subjected to some obvious deal breakers. But people replace each other quickly. But first they show off by going through a whole lavish wedding ceremony where they loudly declare their undying love for each other, exchange vows and yadda yadda yadda to everybody that cares to listen and even to people that don't want to hear about it.....only to divorce a few years later.
Yeah, whatever. What happened to the love and the vows?
It's the same when people post the most ridiculous declarations of love for each other on Facebook when in reality they have rather shitty relationships where they argue and beat each other several times a week. Everybody argues, well most couples will at some point but hey.....slapping each other around on a regular basis is not normal. Or is it? I have when angry at a boyfriend been violent also but NOT on a regular or weekly basis. In between the angry blowout fights I want and need a good, solid and peaceful relationship.
You want to know who I will love until the day I die without a doubt in my heart? Chhaya.
My Mother and my brother and the friends I have in Sweden that I grew up with. The people that really know me, the people that I can trust, the ones that are there for me no matter what and that I know have nothing untrue or bad to say about me. They only have good intentions towards me. Those are the ones I truly love. And then I have accumulated a handful of people here in the US that I also care very deeply for.
What is WAY MORE SERIOUS than getting married to somebody is the person you pick to have children with. You can always get a divorce if you are not happy with your spouse.
But you can never change who you choose to reproduce with. So pick wisely. I don't know what I would do if I had one or two kids with somebody only to separate later and then have to sit back and watch my ex subject my children to his future girlfriend/s. No way! I would be so worried that the girlfriend would be irresponsible/mean/not caring etc etc. There is a plethora of things that could go wrong. You can only hope that the person you separate from has enough common sense to make wise decisions, putting the children first. And I see plenty of examples showing the opposite.
Anyhow......Chhaya is waiting. We are going on a walk. It's cold here, I'm wearing long johns but there is no snow yet. That's a good thing.

Wednesday, October 29. 2014

Why Mama June

Oh Mama June.....I'm so disappointed in you. According to the RUMORS, Mama June is ALLEGEDLY spending time with a man that did ten years in prison after being convicted of sexually assaulting one of her four daughters. He did time, that is a FACT.
Why Mama June, why? There are so many other men out there. Why do you have to go back to the one that did this to your own daughter? Even if you are not romantically involved with him again, why are you even spending time with him?
Statistics prove that sex offenders often re offend. My solution is mandatory chemical castration for rapists and child molesters. Actually forcible chemical castration is the law in Poland for child molesters (when they rape). GOOD!
I have watched "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo" a few times, maybe four. I have marveled at Mama June and her family, the way they live and their habits of farting, burping on camera and on top of each other and being rather distasteful in general but at the same time they seemingly have lots of fun and are full of love. When the cameras roll at least. I also admired mama June's dedication and knack for couponing, I have written about that before. TLC has since this information about Mama June spending time with the child molester ex boyfriend stopped the show. They packed up and got out of Mama June's house quickly.
It's always so surprising and sad when women do this to their own children. Pick a man over the safety and well being of their own child/children. Once you become a parent your child is the most important person in your life. Not a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Mama June is far from the only Mother making a choice like this. I have read, heard and personally seen plenty of examples of unfit Mothers or unfit parents in general. I don't have kids, first and foremost for selfish reasons and secondary for the reason that I believe this world is over populated and not safe.....why would I want to contribute to over population or subject my child to the evils of society? But I do know that if I had a child I would be an amazing Mom. I just know. That is just my natural way of being. Maybe one day I will have a child, or maybe not. Right now I have my baby Chhaya.
I can't stand people that mistreat their children. Monday evening on the plane ride from Anchorage to Kenai some young Mom that I suspect had a few too many drinks (cause she was so loud) was proudly telling everybody within earshot that she won't quit smoking because it's the only thing that keeps her from strangling her two year old daughter. She was also not happy to be going back home to see her annoying kid. Now who talks like that about their own child to strangers? Sure, kids are a handful and many Mom's are overworked and tired but come on now! She did not sound like she was lovingly joking around about her little terror, she sounded fed up and like the cigarettes were her only joy left in the world. Trashy, trashy behavior. Poor kid having to grow up with a "Mom" like that. I'm sure she attracted an equally stellar man to mate with. Why people are allowed to reproduce without passing a mandatory parenting test with flying colors is mind boggling.



Wednesday, October 15. 2014

The Duggars'

I have been a bit lazy lately about voicing my opinions. I have to catch up on the Islamic State, the shooting in Ferguson and the reaction of Duncan's family after he died of Ebola. I might get to that later this week. Or not.....sigh.
But today.....the Duggars'.



Ok, if you're not familiar with the Duggars'.....they live in Arkansas. Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar have 19 children (nine girls, ten boys) that Michelle gave birth to. That is very impressive, that woman gave birth to 19 kids, quite a feat! But that is where it stops being impressive to me. Because Michelle squeezed out all these kids, the TV channel TLC gave the Duggars' their own show called "19 Kids and Counting" (I do not watch it). Do not be surprised if Michelle has baby number 20 in the future, although she has been advised by at least one doctor not to have any more babies due to health concerns for the baby. In fact, Michelle was pregnant with baby number 20 but miscarried. I have written about the Duggars' before. I am for population control in today's world. Having children is a selfish decision, you have them because you WANT to. No baby asks to be born, YOU are solely responsible for putting them here. The world is overpopulated and growing rapidly, that is a fact. Does anybody care about that? Hello.....people with a working brain, are you out there? So having 19 because it's supposedly God's will and not your own doing.....I mean to me that is just really wrong and weird too.
I'm sure the Duggars' take great care of all their children and are loving parents. The income from their show is probably helping a lot too, nothing like all of a sudden being able to amp up your lifestyle and grace magazine covers and everything else their "fame" is allowing them to get involved with. I think they are completely undeserving of this fame. How Michelle's body is doing after carrying 19 children is something I am curios about. I'm sure Jim Bob is doing just fine. Ready to impregnate his woman many more times.
I think one or two kids MAX in today's society, regardless of where you live should be the standard or even the rule. Why anybody would want more I don't know. I also think that every adult has a responsibility not only for themselves but also a greater social responsibility (you do what you can, not everybody is privileged enough to live comfortably and in peace)......and one of those responsibilities (out of many) is to not contributing to overpopulating the world.
The Duggars' also have a backwards view on women and sexuality, I think. No, not ever woman out there should follow my example and be a dancer (stripper) and I have met many dancers that have no business doing it at all. The strip club is certainly not the place to be working if you have some serious issues. But it seems like the only life goals a girl growing up Duggar style has is to get married young, start popping out as many kids as possible and please her husband. That's a shitty life in my opinion, I'd rather do what I do than be a submissive breeder. I'm sure the Duggars' would think that I am an awful human for being so scandalous. They don't celebrate Halloween (which is my favorite holiday) they are not allowed to dance (and I actually dance for people and get paid for it, plus I love dancing in general), what they read and what music they listen to is strictly monitored by their parents (that most likely means no Rihanna, whom I love). Bikinis on the beach is a no no, I grew up running around topless on beaches and think nude beaches are great.
The Duggars' thank God for making them "normal". I don't think by saying normal they mean physically healthy, more like they thank God that they are not gay (at least openly). I have no problem with gay people, in fact I thank God that gays exist, they make this world more interesting, colorful and GAY.
What I also think is totally disgusting is that the girls in the Duggar clan are taught that they "always need to be available when he calls". I would never ever teach something like that to my daughter if I had one.



Meaning when he (the guy they end up marrying) wants sex, you better give it to him. WTF!!!!!? These girls are not even allowed to kiss the guy they marry before the wedding, they don't even really know each other, all their time spent together before the wedding is done under supervision. All of that is so backwards. The Duggar clan is made up by nine girls and ten boys. There is nothing mentioned in the article about the importance for the boys to be chaste and virgins. Are the boys allowed to kiss their future wife before they get married or have any experiences with other girls before they get married?
It seems like they think that a woman's most prized possession is her virginity and that takes you back to the dark ages. Basically, you purchase the girl with the ring and then you can rightfully take what's yours - her virginity and continue to have sex with her whenever you want, regardless of what she wants, because now you own her. I personally think that virginity is important for both sexes and that sex should preferably be experienced when you are mature enough and with somebody that you care for. I am not into casual sex or one night stands at all, to me sex is something rather serious BUT I'm not a virgin and I'm not married. And I am not ashamed over that fact. I would think there is so much more to a girl than her untouched body and virginity. Again, women's sexuality is something shameful.
We should be virgins until married, be available for our husband when he demands sex and we should probably not enjoy sex too much either......but pretend that we do to make the husband feel like he is the greatest lover ever (like you would know the difference with not even a kiss until you get married).
I believe that it's wrong to push your backwards religious beliefs on your children. And here we are talking 19 children. Kids should grow up in a different way I think. Look, I am a dancer but that doesn't mean I sleep around, get drunk on a regular basis, make poor choices, do drugs everyday and fuck up. And I was not raised the Duggar way, far from it. I started going out clubbing at 13, nobody ever told me that it was sinful and I somehow managed to grow up to be a well rounded, secure and confident individual. Even though I chose to work in a strip club. MY choice. On the other hand I know of a girl that was raised in a religious spirit so to speak and stayed a virgin well into her 20's, although she offered different hand job techniques (something I thought that only was on the menu in brothels) to please her boyfriends with. Then she got married, pregnant pretty much right away and has been in and out of rehab several times. Great life huh? Once you have children, nonsense like drinking and drugs should not be on your list of priorities anymore.
I would love to see one of the Duggar kids rebel, escape from the clan (cult really) or come out as a flaming homosexual. Now that is a show I would love to watch on TLC. I Escaped The Duggar Cult!