Way too often do I read about the single Mom's new boyfriend that abuses and sometimes kills her child. I understand that it must be difficult to be a single Mom.....but once you give birth to that child it should be your number one priority. Forming relationships with a new partner in my opinion should be put on the back burner. For a long time. If you want to go out and "have fun" then arrange for a trusted baby sitter and even a sane baby sitter is difficult to find it seems.
But introducing your child/children to new boyfriends is just not OK. Like I said.....I have read too many of these incidents, so I am extremely opinionated in this matter. Children's well-being and safety should ALWAYS come first. There are plenty of men out there but your children are your children, protect them.
Here are some statistics from brightfutures4kids.org
Child abuse transcends all ethnicities, cultures, religions, socio-economic and education levels.
78% of victims of child abuse related fatalities were 1 to 3 years old; 3/4 of deaths were caused by one or more parent(s).
Every year an estimated 900,000 children in the United States are victims of maltreatment, 18,000 are permanently disabled.
Head trauma is the leading cause of child abuse death among babies. The 100% preventable Shaken Baby Syndrome is a major cause of death, where 25% of victims die and the majority of survivors suffer brain damage.
Child abuse is reported every 10 seconds.
Almost five children die every day as a result of child abuse. More than three out of four are under the age of four.
About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
More than 90% of abusers are people children know, love, or trust.
79% of adults perpetrating against children are their parents.
57% of children will be victims of some form of physical assault during their lifetime.
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18.
Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.
90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way; 68% are abused by their family members
Over 30% of victims never disclose the experience to others.
A typical child sex offender molests an average of 117 children.
20% of child sexual abuse victims are under the age of 8.
Sexual abuse is commonly associated with other family problems, such as parental alcoholism, parental rejection, and parental marital conflict.
One more of my opinions.....I am against spanking too. I don't want to hear, "Oh, I was spanked as a child and I am OK." I heard that too from people that got beat up by their parents.....and they use that as an excuse to spank their own kids.
And get drunk around their kids because this is what their childhood looked like. No, it is not OK.....you are continuing the abuse. Spanking for some people would be abuse in another person's eyes.
I have that blue ribbon in my car. I feel sad for all the mistreated children in this world.
Now to animals. Abused animals can now get a voice in court, at least in Connecticut thanks to Desmond's Law. All other states SHOULD follow suit, do the RIGHT thing! Desmond was a shelter dog that was starved, beaten and strangled to death a few years ago. I get a really awful feeling inside when I read about children and animals getting mistreated. The DISGUSTING PIECE OF SHIT that did this to the poor dog is walking free in society.....he got away with "rehabilitation". Charges dismissed, record wiped clean. Do you think he is rehabilitated?
Would you like to take him home and introduce him to your children and your pets? New boyfriend perhaps? Honestly.....I could probably execute people that commit these acts myself and feel completely OK doing it. I can be Jihadi John but for the one's with no voice - children and animals. Animals NEED a voice, people that fight for their rights. I would like to do some volunteer work with either abused children or animals BUT I can't because I would be charged with capital murder. Seriously, I would.
Australia is working on a law to take away passports from convicted child sex offenders because so many of them take trips to Asia to fulfill their sick sexual desires on innocent child victims there. I think all convicted pedophiles should have their passports confiscated and get mandatory chemical castration. Most of them are repeat offenders.
You can't enter Canada with a recent DUI on your record but a convicted child sex offender can travel abroad and continue with his crimes? Is that OK?
And now to War Machine (Jonathan Paul Koppenhaver) that got sentenced to life in prison with a possibility of parole after 36 years in a Las Vegas courtroom the other day. I wrote about War Machine and Chisty Mack a few years ago when that drama had just happened.
In this case I have to say.....the punishment DOES NOT fit the crime. 36 years to life? Christy and the other dude that got beat up by War Machine but they are still alive. People that abuse and murder children, have sex with children and scar them for life, abuse and kill animals get WAY LESSER sentences, some even get away with murder and rape with basically a slap on the wrist and this guy gets 36 years? Hello, WHAT?! And NO, I do not think it's OK to beat women. But in this case I think the sentencing is a joke. War Machine and Christy Mack made a high profile case and he was made an example of. I actually feel bad for him. I hope somebody somehow will see how wrong this is and work on getting him a much shorter sentence. I feel 5 years and many hours of community service doing something useful would be better. And yes, I have read about his prior rage incidents, I think he needs work, in his case rehabilitation after a prison sentence would fit. I feel bad for Christy too, I understand she got severely beaten, it took her a long time to recover and I like her but I don't think this is right.
More statistics from brightfuture4kids.org
Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury for women ages 15 to 44.
21% of women report being raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her life.
I can say this much.....had I caught my boyfriend in bed with another girl there would had probably been some violence involved. Depending on my feelings towards him and the overall situation of course. But I have a hot temper and I would had not just walked away. It is called a crime of passion and often sentencing is more lenient in cases like those due to the amount of feelings involved.