This here is an old pic of me, I can tell because my eyebrows were thinner but besides that everything else looks pretty much the same today.
The photographer was my friend Pepe. A great man from Cuba that I actually met a work at the first club I worked at, Starz in Gardena CA. He had a photo studio and I spent many hours there taking pictures, even learning to develop them, like this one - I developed it myself in his darkroom.
We shared many lunches at a Cuban restaurant, where I always ordered black beans, rice and plantains. I enjoyed many good talks about life with him. I called Pepe "grandpa" because that's what he became to me.
I just read some article about a man, here in the US that has 30 kids with 11 different women. To me, that is totally disgusting. First of all, as a woman.....I would had never allowed myself to get pregnant by him, let alone even date him.
That guy should be forced to have a vasectomy. I do not approve of mindless breeding. For humans and animals.
I do not have kids and I actually would rather not get involved in a relationship with somebody that has kids. I prefer men with no kids. Kids are like baggage, they come with baby mama's and potential problems. I would consider it if the guy was my dream man, somebody I felt very strongly for or if the kids were grown up already, like teenagers.
But a guy with a toddler or even worse, two or more toddlers, no thanks. When I hear about single people with small kids that date around I get annoyed. I think they should concentrate on being a parent first and only and forget about the dating until later. The first five or six years of a child's life are crucial for how the child will develop as an individual and if you constantly date around and bring home new "mommy's and daddy's then I think you are being an irresponsible parent. How do they find the time to date with a few small kids to take care of, if they are the primary care giving parent that is.
And really, who would like to date a person with 30 kids already? What a turn off. And what about Octomom, she has 14 kids and she takes care of them all, no daddy around. I don't think she has too many suitors. But maybe she isn't looking either.
I watched the new Bachelorette (Emily) the other day and some guy was on there and he was a father of six. Of course she didn't want to date him, I wouldn't either. How about you build a strong relationship with your wife first before you start to reproduce? And stick with the marriage. Six kids are four too many. One or two kids maybe.
And I think the Bachelorette herself should be happy that any guy wants to deal with her and her baggage, meaning her kid. Actually, she should be single a few more years.
Sure there are always some exceptions of great people that make it work and are amazing parents even though there is one child or a handful of children involved. But most of the time, I see some questionable parenting.