In todays world we are bombarded with lots of images. Many of them portray women in various stages of undress. Then there are strip clubs all over. Las Vegas is over saturated with them. Hundreds of girls working in one club. You Porn and similar sites. So, what do you think about this. Good? No good? Ok? Indifferent?
Tatiana is somewhat disturbed and concerned with where the porn industry is going.
It seems to be going towards faster, harder, more, dirtier, nastier, people are bored and want to see more, more, more. Young girls start porn at 18 and after a few movies, even one, they might be ready to be done due to over load. Most will not attain fame in the porn world, only a selected few get that, one of the new starlets is Sasha Grey, young, very pretty and surrounded by controversy. Sasha is very outspoken and seems to be intelligent, either she is or she is trying hard to come across as it. She does really hard core porn, extreme stuff, she calls herself a feminist and wants to be in charge of her career. She is 21 now but she has been doing porn for a while. She is portraying "Lolita" in a photo spread in December's Playboy. She has been cast in some films outside of porn, she is getting lots of attention.
Tatiana thinks that 18 is way too young to start in the porn industry. The age limit should be 23, then the girls have more life experience and can make a more educated decision whether or not to do porn. It's a decision that shouldn't be taken too lightly. People should have a choice to do whatever they want to do in life, but doing porn can have long lasting psychological effects in a person. Especially today's porn, which is FAR from romantic. At 23 there is less chance that a girl is succumbing to pressure from an outside source if to become a porn actress. She will hopefully have more confidence and be able to say NO if she is uncomfortable in a situation. 23 is still young and fresh looking enough for the "young looking girl" market.
Tatiana read somewhere that majority of the people that do porn movies either have or will get infected with herpes. Well, just by having regular sex exposes a person to a plethora of STDs but still, in porn there's probably a higher chance of it. There's not much safe sex practiced, not in majority of the porn Tatiana has seen anyway. Do you think an 18 year old girl, new to a set of a porn movie is going to request condoms?
Ask questions? Probably not.
Then there is the frequency of anal sex. Does anyone think of the possible consequences of too much anal or rough anal? Tatiana is not a doctor (she is a therapist) but it seems like it might lead to some complications down the line in that area if you overdo it. An 18 year old probably doesn't sit around and think of complications in the butt after the age of 40. For them 40 seems ancient.
Then there are the sex addicts, the ones that surf online porn for hours and miss out on valuable personal time, some ruin their relationships because of this. When is the line crossed? When does it become too much? Can porn be good too? When and how?
It's an individual decision and it is surely beneficial for some. It can be fun, enjoyable, exciting and entertaining. But on whose expense? What happens to the girls acting in porn? What if some of them feel bad because of it? Who thinks of them?
Do we need porn in society? Do we need strip clubs? What functions does this fill? Wouldn't it be better to spend time doing something else than watch porn or hang out in the club? Tatiana doesn't think that she does anything pornographic, if you met her and know her you probably know that she doesn't carry herself in a "slutty" way.
She totally believes that you can be a dancer and have much class and a strong integrity. Tatiana looks at it more as "artistic nude entertainment for adults". LOL.
But still, what good does Tatiana do to society and herself by being a dancer?
What good does porn do to us? There are reports that young teen boys think that girls should act like the girls they see in porn. The same kind of sex. The same look. The kids are totally desensitized and are growing up with a wrong view of women and how to relate to them. In real life women don't walk around airbrushed. Or think that getting a facial is like the best thing ever, a porn facial that is. Tatiana loves facials too, at Anastasia Spa in Anchorage or Bliss Spa in New York. Hello!
If Sasha Grey is happy, by all means she should embrace her porn career and go for it. Actually Tatiana finds Sasha rather refreshing, she is a natural brunette, very pretty, she doesn't have that typical porn look, frosty blonde hair and huge implants. And she is very outspoken. But the porn she does is crazy. Tatiana wishes Sasha all the best in life. Really. We all want to be happy and people are in search of happiness while medicating themselves more and more (some). It's sad. Is Tatiana happy? For the most part yes. She is not unhappy at work, she doesn't like work when it's boring, Tatiana gets very impatient and annoyed when bored at work. Sometimes it is lots of fun. But if it wasn't for her mortgage she wouldn't be working as much, in the club at least. But since Tatiana is a slave to some bank and a bad loan she is dancing away.
Right now she is happy, Chhaya is snoring with her head buried in Tatiana's lap.
Today was a great day. Tomorrow is a new day. Tatiana is hoping for the best. For all. Yeah......just some thoughts from Tatiana this chilly Sunday night.