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Have To Share This.....

So Monday night while I was on Facebook.......a girl that I kind of know wrote that she was going to write a review about some "stripper 101 workshop" that was being held in Vegas. Basically a short class, if you can even call it a class, in "stripping" - whatever that means. Since she has a lot of Facebook friends people chimed in with their input and lame opinions about strippers. I reacted to one guys comments. Here is the exchange we had so far.......I haven't been on Facebook since then, I don't go there too much.
GUY, "Does the class also provide an addiction to meth & an abusive live-in boyfriend?"
ME, "LAME - like all strippers are drug addicts and have abusive boyfriends! I beg to differ, stop talking shit about strippers.
Like you are so much better!"
GUY, "I've clearly hit a nerve; wonder why?"
SOME OTHER PERSON, "I can't say ALL strippers are bad.. I've known quite a few awesome girls that really just do it because they know it's better money than most anything else. Sadly, a good 90% are psychos.. :/"
ME, "i was not going to dignify mr.......(GUY) with an answer at first but decided to do it anyways. the reason is that i have encountered too many pompous and self important men lately that think they can blurt out whatever negative against strippers. there is a danger in stereotyping and all people that consider themselves somewhat educated and intelligent should know this. maybe mr..........(GUY) doesn't fit into that category? i am a woman and a feminist and yes a dancer too.....aka stripper. i do not have any drug or alcohol problems at work or outside. i am always sober at work. neither do i have that abusive boyfriend. yes, during my years as a dancer i have seen girls with various problems. but many people in the US self medicate or use drugs on a daily basis, in every profession. or take anti depressants. i don't do any of that. don't throw stones when you might not be a stellar example yourself. i have known some women that didn't strip that did things for $ that i would never do, like have a sugar daddy for example. i could mention lots of stuff but won't.
i also found that women that rarely have anything nice to say about other women, especially about strippers are usually some pretty sad and insecure individuals themselves. i am not saying that all strippers are sober and sane......but far from all of them fit the negative stereotypes. swinging around a pole does not make you a "ho".
and men that talk bad about dancers......well what can i say.....don't like women much?
just my two cents."

YES. I have met many girls at work that had a drug or alcohol problem, or both. But guess what? I have met so many people in other professions with the same problems. I knew a middle school teacher with a meth problem, he is now free from that addiction. A surgeon that would drink and snort coke and go in to do surgery lit up. Yes, a surgeon. A rather respected profession. People working as real estate agents, general contractors,
employees in night clubs, hair dressers etc. All kinds of people.
And the bad boyfriend? Girls have bad boyfriends ALL the time. I've had some. Not anymore! Hopefully you learn and move on and are lucky enough to find somebody that treats you well. I did once have a boyfriend that I had a volatile relationship with at times, far from frequently, but it came from both of us (I have a MEAN temper) and it never got really bad. I wasn't the abused girlfriend that sat quiet in the corner. If anything, I am the abuser. Not really but kind of......lol. And guess what, we are still good friends and I wish him all the best in life.
I have worked with many beautiful, wonderful and smart girls that had their shit together.
I really don't like when guys that have no clue stereotype and talk bad about dancers. Maybe they had some bad experiences at a club, mouthed off to the wrong girl, came across a girl in bad shape, fell in love with a dancer that didn't feel the same way or don't like women in general. Who knows?
I recently had an asshole photographer not delivering his end of our agreement - my pics. And last time I asked him to give me my pics he thought he was being smart by trying to put me down by talking some crap about me being a stripper. Yeah right buddy, you have to try harder than that!
I brushed that dirt off my shoulder right away. He acted like a liar, bully and coward. Not me.
And girls that talk shit about dancers? Most of them are insecure. Yeah, I've seen them, come in to the club - stare and talk shit. Most of them don't look that good themselves. Women that are confident do not have a problem that other women are attractive. I LOVE beautiful girls, the hotter the better. Yes, I have made negative comments about girls. But I have given way more compliments. Yes, I do call out behavior I am not ok with at work. Some things do not belong in a strip club, we have rules to follow. Plus when I talk about girls at work it's coming from another dancer, not from some guy with "opinions" and a chip on his shoulder.
But I also know of girls in "regular" 9-5 jobs that do things and behave in ways that I would never do. Even though I am that stripper. But I am also SO much else.......... ❤

And I should add that I always write in lower case letters on Facebook and when I text, so yes.....I wrote like that on purpose.


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  1. BT on :

    Tatiana, You are so right when you kindly described that abusive guy as "some guy with opinions and a chip on his shoulder". They are angry and to be avoided. It's just sad when a girl lets it get to her because that behavior has nothing to do with the girl and everything to do with the disfunction/anger of the guy. If he doesn't like the heat then get out of the kitchen. Simple. He should be hanging out in church instead of bashing girls on facebook. haha. It's like politics when people are too lazy to look at the real issues and just write damaging soundbites taken out of context or use name-calling. It's rampant in society and as girls we need to not take it personally when a man talks that crap.
  2. TATIANA Post author on :

    That's right!
    And I don't take it personally, I know who I am and I have no problem whatsoever with being me.
    🙂
    Thanks for reading and the comment!

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